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Resurgence of the Toi et Moi engagement ring has captured the attention of couples across the globe. Celebrities including Ariana Grande and Emily Ratajkowski have opted for this classic style that is comprised of two stones to symbolise two lovers. In all its uniqueness and grandeur, there is however a deeply personal meaning. Here is why we love the ‘You and Me’ ring.
What is the ‘Toi et Moi’ Ring?
Dating back to the age of Napoleon, the Toi et Moi ring unites two stones under a single band setting. Whilst the original double pear-shaped design gained popularity amongst couples, modernised interpretations of the classic style have taken the wedding world by storm.
What is the meaning of the ‘Toi et Moi’?
‘Toi et Moi’ translates in French to ‘you and me’, and this ring encapsulates its title in every respect. As a piece holding historical weight, it is no surprise that the ‘Toi et Moi’ ring has captured the hearts of expectant brides everywhere. Its romantic context is situated in the engagement of Napoleon I and Joséphine Beauharnais and the extensive scribing of love letters between the pair. Within one of these letters, the military commander expresses how “my happiness is to be near you”, and through the Toi et Moi ring, he does just that.
Situated next to one another, two stones are intertwined to symbolise two souls uniting in matrimony and because of this, the Toi et Moi ring is often received as a gesture of love on Valentine’s Day or for engagements. It provides the ultimate wedding vow; to join for eternity, which becomes symbolic with the cyclical band. Celebrities have adopted this symbolism and added their own personal touch to the Toi et Moi ring in their own engagements. In 2022, Machine Gun Kelly proposed to actress Megan Fox with a Toi et Moi ring “set on two magnetic bands of thorns that draw together as two halves of same soul forming the obscure heart that is our love”, he wrote in an Instagram post regarding their engagement. The capacity for symbolism that this ring carries is monumental, and a significant amount of this is attributed to its easily customisable design. Paired with the historical substance that this design carries, the Toi et Moi ring makes for a truly romantic and lasting symbol of love.
A personal touch:
Whilst the traditional ring is set with two pear-shaped stones, couples have implemented their personal tastes through different stones, sizes, and shapes. Megan Fox’s ‘Toi et Moi’ ring was personalised to display the couple’s birth stones with the traditional pear shape, combining the new and the old. Alternatively, singer Ariana Grande opted for a large oval cut diamond paired with a smaller pearl. Personalisation through stone choice adds significant context to the rings meaning, as each stone represents a different emotion, and couples are offered the liberty to shape their perfect pairing. The beauty of the Toi et Moi ring is therefore in its pairing of historical context with the opportunity for personalisation. There is an intertwining of old and new, of two individuals that will live out their shared history, all represented through the Toi et Moi ring.
When to buy a 'Toi et Moi' Ring:
Again, this is a completely individual choice. However, our advice would be to detail every aspect of the ring design. The symbolism of the Toi et Moi ring provides an opportunity for meticulous planning to provide a symbol of love unique to every couple. Therefore, take the time to consider what this ring means to you and your partner. Do you want the stones to be the same, to symbolise kindred spirits? Do you want each other’s birth stones? Do you want one stone pointing to the other to symbolise your union? Also take into consideration the symbolism of the event itself. Perhaps one of you is relocating, and therefore the ring is a symbol of union even when apart. Perhaps this ring is a promise of union instead of an engagement itself. Take time in shaping the perfect story for your Toi et Moi ring and create a unique symbol of your love.
Here are CSP Times’ top picks for Toi et Moi engagement rings:
Taylor & Harding
£2,970
VRAI
Starting at £1,599
incl. VAT
Jessie Thomas
£2,999